Often, the demise and disintegration of a romance is a clear sign to sever all ties from someone who, at one time, was the person you confided in,
spent your days and shared virtually every intimate detail with.
In this respect, I totally agree that if you ended a relationship in a typically fiery manner – whether it’s through disdain, infidelity, or otherwise – you should make a clean break.
Like the majority of people, I’ve been there.
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And truthfully, there’s nothing more refreshing than a clean break – giving yourself the chance to focus solely on number one.
Ending a relationship is never a nice task, regardless of whether you still love or now absolutely loathe the person.
It always hurts, no matter the circumstance.
Many people have had a break-up that’s followed by complete radio silence: simply put, it’s the best way to get over someone and move on.
That means deleting their number, all social media (and even blocking), ridding yourself of all the stuff they left at your flat, and basically doing anything to occupy your mind.
But sometimes, and it doesn’t happen often, it’s possible to stay friends. Honestly, it can happen.
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I’m speaking from personal experience here because I’m still good friends with an ex of mine from 2011.
To save on the boring details, after 18 months, we decided that we’d grown apart and would be better off as friends.
Initially it felt odd – mainly because, while the components were no longer there for a romantic partnership, there were still lingering feelings and we still cared about one another.
After a few short months apart, it felt easy to move into a friendship space and the dynamics have been fine ever since.
And to this day we’re still friends.
I can see why this would appear alien to some but that doesn’t mean it’s an implausible scenario.
If you can genuinely forge a platonic friendship with an ex, meaning no complications or conflicts of interest, then I don’t see why not.
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After all, couples can remain friends after a marriage ends – especially if there are children involved. A childless relationship should in theory be easier, shouldn’t it?
Providing neither side feigns friendship in the hope of rekindling a dormant love, I personally foresee no problem in evolving into friends.
There are plenty of people who would take issue with the concept.
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